Like A Garment - A Review
Like A Garment is an eBook by Shaykh Yasir Qadhi that aims to educate to-be married and married couples in need of sex education and other marital problems they will or might face at some point in married life. It's about 42 pages long and has been recently dubbed '50 shades of Halal Intimacy.' To get your free copy, go here.
The eBook mainly focus on the well-known hadith of Jabir and it gives several tafsir of the hadith which are beneficial for both men and women. Why? Because it's imperative for both sexes to be patient with one another and understand where their respective counterpart is coming from. And that, Like A Garment helps with.
"Jabir b. Abdillah reported that once he was on an expedition with the Prophet salla Allahu ʿalayhi wa sallam, and when they were close to the city of Madinah, he sped on his mount. The Prophet salla Allahu ʿalayhi wa sallam asked him why he was in such a hurry to return home. Jabir replied, “I am recently married!” The Prophet salla Allahu ʿalayhi wa sallam asked, “To an older lady or a younger one?” [the Arabic could also read: “To a widow or a virgin?”], to which he replied, “A widow.”
The Prophet salla Allahu ʿalayhi wa sallam said, “But why didn't you marry a younger girl, so that you could play with her, and she could play with you, and you could make her laugh, and she could make you laugh?”
He said, “O Messenger of Allah! My father died a martyr at Uhud, leaving behind daughters, so I did not wish to marry a young girl like them, but rather an older one who could take care of them and look after them.” The Prophet salla Allahu ʿalayhi wa salam replied, “You have made the correct choice.”
Jabir continues, “So when we were about to enter the city, the Prophet salla Allahu ʿalayhi wa sallam said to me, 'Slow down, and enter at night, so that she who has not combed may comb her hair, and she who has not shaved may shave her private area.' Then he said to me, 'When you enter upon her, then be wise and gentle.'”
To continue, Like A Garment highlights famous scholars like Iman al-Qurtubi and his teacher Ibn al-Arabi's jaw dropping comments about sex education which are nonetheless insightful for men who are not familiar with the female body but who are eager to learn for the purpose to excel in the art of sexual and love making. The eBook also gives Quranic verses, some insights from Imam Al-Ghazali, how men think versus how women think amongst other things like the reason behind the given descriptions of the Hooris we know.
For women who feel threatened by the Hooris, just remember that your beauty will surpass the one of the Hooris. So you can relax :) insha'Allah. Please read this post for more details.
In conclusion, you can read more on the author's intentions here.
Rating: 3.5/5
Jazakh'Allah khair for reading,
Papatya*